Withdrawals of aspiring adoptive parents who were both exhausted forces swimming against the tide. People who alight its endless journey to nowhere, virtually after touring countries around the world, leaving behind them the chance to be parents, to love and love them unconditionally.
A journey that will probably have paralyzed all his other projects, they conditioned their lives for a promise that happiness away from them was their life miserable.
And now this ... just when they thought they were touching the sky, your records were already in the country, which had even assigned region which probably knew all the details: orphanages, weather, places to go, places to buy and where to move. .. they had nothing ... and they have closed the door in his face.
has always been said that the "pasta" that are made of the adoptive parents is a special paste, if not impossible to handle what is enduring and not give up. But patience has a limit: 4 ... 5 ... 6 years ... Everyone knows where his sometimes is the age limit is not the same debut as Mother in the 40 to 48 or 50 ... can also add any of these cases of resignation earlier years of search for maternity clinics and hospitals.
I I also got off the train of biological motherhood after years of travel and treatment samples after many failed attempts to undergo a D & C at 7 weeks and pregnancy, to retest again and again and eventually give up because of health and among other things can not get over the disappointment. I got out skeptical of that wheel, I thought that for some reason I was denied maternity and still had to hear it was better to leave it, and are the exact words-"to know what God was avoiding us no children." I can not forget that phrase but now I smile ... Kazakhs look at my children and I smile.
The path of parenthood and even further the adoption by the manner in which it develops, is not transferable, but almost all go through the same seasons: the illusion, the paperwork again and again renewed certificate, passed Notary, Apostille, translated and sent ... "examination of parents" sometimes two or three times done, where you look very closely at your intimacy and your chances ... and most exhausting: the pursuit of the record and see how fellow travelers get it and tu-inexplicably always you stay back a step, believing you close but so far away how are you families, these would have been adopted in Kazakhstan occurred, are so far as before .
The photo is my daughter when we were still in Kazahastán, and I happen to think that somewhere, "who knows where," perhaps a child is abandoned a second time, what a pity that Fate, providence, Karma, luck or fate of that child is always the same, "circumstances", which made getting to an orphanage, and now, which will prevent him from meeting with those who so desire love and care.
not occur to me to try to convince anyone or attempting to take or to stop it, just not occur to me to intrude on the story or personal decision of anybody who, from his heart has decided it can no longer and resigned. Just I dare say that if the heart, without constraints or fits, if you abandon your dream produces something similar to remain paralyzed, completely devoid of motivation, as if he had cast the engine that drove "the children are motor of existence, this may be a sign that their journey in search of a child not yet over.
luck.
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